Self Healing Guide
From Misery to Bliss

This blog is a guide for healing your life. We all have the power to heal ourselves. Sometimes people think they need expensive weekly therapy for months or years in order to heal. Perhaps in some cases that is true. But most people are capable of healing themselves if they truly desire to do so and if they have access to the right resources. Mental and emotional sanity is much simpler than most people realize, indeed enlightenment is much simpler than most people realize. If sanity feels like a goal that is too far away for you to reach then this guide is for you.

I encounter many people who have extremely difficult lives and continue to have many difficulties even today. To use the word difficult is an understatement in many of these cases…for too many people life really does suck and they just can't wait for it all to be over. If that is how you have felt about life then this blog is for you. There is a lot here, but it will take a lot of work to heal this big mess. Take your time go through it slowly; reach out for help when you need it.

People like this would find it very difficult to understand what it is like to have a life like mine. How could it be possible to feel good, to feel happy, to be in love and feel love day after day, every day? How could it be possible to be happy even when people insult and abuse you or when you are fired from a job or when a relationship ends or when a loved one dies? How is it possible to be happy even when you have been thrown in jail under false charges? How is it possible to be happy when everything you have worked for or ever wanted is constantly being taken away from you? How is it possible to be happy when you are deported from a country you have made your home, where you have a financial investment in property, and investment in friends and a dog you love?

When I wrote this last paragraph I started out describing the circumstances that others faced, but realized everything in it has happened to me and some of it is still happening to me. Yet to be fair I must also admit that my life has contained many beautiful blessings too. Mostly I have held high paying jobs and received much respect for the work I do. I have been head over heels in love many times, which of course means I have lost many loves too. I have lived in beautiful homes with beautiful views, in various countries around the world. I have had many children come into my life, but they have all left it too. I have no children of my own yet, except for my two adopted children who are stuck in India while we work through the process of getting them visas, so even now I am separated from them as well. I am intelligent, I have written a book, and I have achieved many accomplishments in my life. I am loved by many people, but that has not always been the case. I have been the target of much jealousy and lost many friendships.

I have known the joys of getting what I want and the sorrow of not getting what I want. Earlier in my life I was very lost and blown about by the winds of fate. So I feel that I am the perfect person to write a blog such as this and to give the advice I am giving here because I know both sides of the issue of enjoying life no matter what is happening.

I want to state emphatically that you can have happiness whenever you want it. It is possible. You can listen to your own mind that says it is impossible or you can listen to others who do not have happiness tell you it is impossible or you can listen to those who know, those who have experienced it, those who have mastered life tell you that it is possible. You can learn the secrets to happiness no matter how deep you are in your misery. Creating happiness anytime you want it, no matter what is going on in the outerworld, is a skill.

In this blog I want to make as many resources available to you as possible for greatly improving the quality of your life. Besides my blogs, I offer personal, one on one counseling for free. But I do ask you to read my blogs since they contain so much of what I would teach you anyways. I am also offering you FREE Abraham CDs. (See http://abraham-hicks.com for more information about the teachings of Abraham.). I give credit for my own enlightenment to the information contained on these CDs. They are so powerful that I got them weekly for four years and listened to each CD more than once. This marked a huge surge forward for me in my own personal growth. Which brings up a good point…REPETITION!

If you want me to send you one of these Abraham CDs for free then email me with your mailing address and I will send it to you. This offer is limited to supplies I have on hand. I also have plenty of CASSETTE TAPES, if you have a tape player I can send you one of those tapes instead.

Repetition is essential to moving yourself into a healthy state of mind and in manifesting the things you want in the outer world too. Please allow me to repeat myself so as to emphasize this point. Repetition is necessary, you should read and reread the same material over and over again if you wish to make it part of your being. Repetition develops new habits of thought. You are constantly being exposed to nonsense in your everyday life coming at you from all directions. To counter this you must engage in repetition of material that trains your mind in the way you wish to have it trained.

Enlightenment is simplicity itself. If you are reading and studying true wisdom there will by its very nature be a lot of repetition within it. The complexity in life comes from the nonsense that we are brainwashed with on a daily basis. The complexity in spiritual wisdom comes from helping the student overcome the crazy ideas about life that we all hold.

Exercise is a very important part of maintaining sanity and Self-Healing. There have been times in my life when I just did not get much exercise in for various reasons...until I started to notice I was becoming depressed. Then I overcame the excuses, stopped procrastinating and found some way to get my body back into motion. So if you are not exercising, you MUST add exercise back into your routine. There has to be a way, and no excuse is good enough to let this one go. I know of many mental health care professionals who have prescribed exercise for their patients and the beneficial results were so amazing they did not feel the need to return to their mental health professional for further care.

Yoga is an excellent practice to take on. It consists of stretching exercises, pranayama exercises which is deep breathing, and meditation exercises. All three of these practices are essential for the good health of the body. All of these are intended to be done regularly. Although I don't do the stretching daily, I do the meditation and pranayamas daily. Yoga classes are offered all over the world these days. So do give it a try. Yoga has helped me to overcome back pains that used to require regular chiropractic visits. I'll be 50 years old in November 2008. I have been in much better health in my forties than I was in my thirties. Most people think I am 35 years old when they look at me.

I give many good lessons in other blogs I have written, there is enough there to get your healing process well underway. The rest of what you need to complete the process will come to you naturally and seemingly magicly over time. The following is an overview of those blogs so you can easily find the lessons that will help you create peace and happiness in your own life.

It may seem overwhelming. But here is the secret. Take them one at a time. Go back and read the comments too. We get into some very profound discussions in the comments! If you read all of these blogs, and more than once, you will spend many days contemplating some very profound questions about your life and how your mind has created the life you are now living. At the same time the negative brainwashing will be put on hold. You will gain much ground, make much progress in improving the quality of your life. Also reading material like this will raise questions in your mind. When a question is asked, the answer will follow. Some how some way life will present the answer to you if you only ask. Seek and you will find.

Drowning in Worry contains a lesson I call the Secret to Happiness. This blog is an answer to a woman who had so many difficulties she felt like she was drowning in them.
 
Reprogramming Yourself contains a lesson in overcoming anger. This blog contains a powerful true life lesson in what we can do with the power of our minds to change ourselves and the external world. A miracle occurred. When a person is overwhelmed by the painful dramas in their lives they feel it is not possible to change things. True stories like this are powerful because they help us see what is possible. I give stories like this, from other authors, credit for transforming my own life into what it is today.

A POWERFUL Creative Tool – Giving Thanks explores the power of gratitude.

Relationship Break Ups – How to Cope. This blog will help you understand the importance of living without a regular romantic partner while you are trying to improve your own life.

Drug Addicts, Prostitutes, Child Molesters, Liars & Cheaters…are They the Scum of the Earth? As well as Crime and Punishment…Both are Insane! Are two blogs that will help you to understand the necessity for forgiveness. Do not underestimate the message or the power in these two blogs. I believe this is the biggest place that people fall down in their evolution. Holding onto judgment, hatred and anger is one of the greatest things that holds people back.

What is Right or Wrong? Your Feelings are Your Guide! This blog contains a lot of detail to help you understand one of the most fundamental principles of my teachings…that your feelings will guide you to right thinking and right action and they can protect you by warning you of the harmful intentions of others.

Jealousy and Low Self-Esteem Seem to Ruin Our Lives is a blog about how our attempts to grow and do our best can trigger jealousy and other strong negative emotions in other people and how to deal with that.

The Secret to Creating Lasting Romance is a blog written to help those in relationship improve their relationships and those who are not improve their point of attraction such that they can attract the relationship they desire.

Meditation and the Wandering Mind is a blog about how to meditate. I bet a lot of people really don't understand the purpose of meditation. Meditation helps a person gain control of their mind first and foremost. there are other purposes beyond that, but gaining control of the mind is the most important purpose of meditation.

Have You Been Abused? Are You Healed? Is a blog written for those who have been abused cautioning them about their point of attraction. Which is to say, if you have been abused repeatedly already you are very likely to be attracted to other abusers in a way that seems very natural and attractive.

Raped by My Father Every Night for Years is a blog written to help those who have suffered sexual or violent abuse.

Is Your Past Real? Is an interesting blog about how we hold ideas about people and events in a certain way that may not be true, and from those ideas we make our choices, take certain actions, and form habits of thought and action. However, as we grow our ideas about life evolve and come closer to the truth, yet do we go back and re-evaluate the past or what we believe happened? Many people did not get this blog…but it will pose some profound questions about what is real and what is not. Also it gives some interesting real life experiences of how we can influence outcomes by changing the way we think. The cool thing about this blog, and most of my blogs, is that the comments bring up some very good questions and the answers are quite profound. READ THE COMMENTS TOO!

You Will Never Get It Done! This is a short and sweet blog that reminds us that there is always way more to do than is possible to do. So let go, let God, do what you can and let the rest go undone! There is always tomorrow.

Cancer and the Law of Attraction is a blog that discusses the frightening issues of life threatening diseases.

The Evolution of a Soul is a blog that helps make sense of the bigger picture…like…Why does God let bad things happen to good people? And is there really such a thing as Good and Bad?

The Golden Compass - A Waste of Mind this is a highly controversial blog that presents the problem of influence the predominant media of film, TV, and the news has upon us. This blog contains many movie recommendations that will serve you better in your healing efforts than the predominant popular movies that are based primarily on violence, suspense, thrills and chills. While MANY people disagreed with what I have presented I would say that most of these people are really defending their taste in movies and their right to choose. They have different goals in life than I do. They feel the need to seek vengeance upon those who make life painful and difficult, they think punishing the bad guys will make the world a better place and are experimenting with such thoughts through their choice in entertainment. Also they have not gone as far with their life experiences as I have nor have they created the magic and miracles I have nor have they had the incredibly close contact with God that I have. Please don't mistake this statement for arrogance; I am NOT saying I am better or more worthy than they are, I am simply stating I have more experience than they do. It is more like comparing a grade school or high school student with a college graduate who is actively putting his education to the test in the real world of experience. One person is not better than the other, but one person certainly has a far vaster wealth of experience to draw upon. This blog reveals a powerful part of what keeps people stuck in their dysfunctional lives. READ THE COMMENTS TOO!

Your Healing Assignment

Like I said earlier, enlightenment is simplicity itself. Living a good, happy, joyful and peaceful life is simple. It only seems difficult due to the programming we have. These habitual thought patterns take us down the wrong path. In most cases you don't even question them. If you read my blogs you will see MANY people object to what I teach. They tell me they have "different beliefs" than I do…For the most part I AM NOT TEACHING BELIEFS! I am teaching what I KNOW. Belief is not knowledge. So what these people are really saying is, "I have beliefs that conflict with truth. I choose to remain in my beliefs and refuse to explore the possibility that I can attain knowledge or that I can move past belief to knowing the true nature of life." But if your life sucks or if it is not going how you want it to in even the most minor of ways, isn't it time to open up and explore something that is different than your beliefs? Perhaps it is your beliefs that are wrong. Don't be insulted…investigate. TRY SOMETHING NEW.

For example, in my blog What is Right or Wrong? Your Feelings are Your Guide! many people disagreed with what I had written. There was more disagreement than the comments you see in the blog itself since I received private emails about it too. But this is a very simple thing to prove for yourself. Is there any harm in trying an experiment in your own mind and life to see if my words are true or not? Or are you attached to being right and attached to your beliefs?

Experiments You Can Try

Sit down and think about a relaxing place in nature. Imagine yourself there, enjoying the sounds and the smells…how does it feel? Does it feel good to you? Then imagine someone being abused or raped. How does that feel? As you can see the feelings are different based on different thoughts. Your feelings do tell you the quality of your thoughts.

Then imagine that you are going about your normal life. Perhaps you generally feel good. You are involved in sports, work family, all is well for the most part. Then you hear from a good friend or relative that someone you love dearly died three days ago, it was a tragic accident while away on vacation in the wilderness and it took three days for your friend to get back to civilization to report the accident. All of a sudden you are suffering from the news and the grief. But why didn't you suffer three days ago when it actually happened? It is because your mind just now became aware and your mind has thoughts about death that cause you to suffer. If you were more psychically aware you may have picked up on this incident when it happened and because of that it would trigger the same worrisome thoughts and a general feeling of grief and despair. But the feelings are telling you about your thoughts about what happened in the life of someone you loved.

Start paying attention to your feeling when you interact with others. Focus on other people. Listen to them. Let go of your thoughts about them and what they say and just feel how that other person feels. How does it feel? Then compare that with your experience of them over time. As time passes you should be able to recognize the connection. When a person says nice things to you but it feels bad and then later you find out they were lying or setting you up to be cheated in some way you will know why the bad feelings came. Or perhaps they say they are fine but inside you feel they are hurting and later you find out their husband had been cheating on them. This is an experiment with feeling others and then comparing it to the outcomes once you have that information.

An experiment in choosing the best option…so you have a choice to make, which one do you choose? Bring yourself to a good feeling place. To do that remember something that feels good to you, being in nature, playing with your children, being with your lover, whatever it is that makes you feel good. Then when you are feeling free and relaxed think about your various choices one at a time. Follow the path one choice will lead you down and see how it feels. Then follow the path of each of the choices, how do they each feel. Don't get too intellectual and start thinking, I don't know how I will have the money or the time or the skills or any such thoughts. Just feel what it would be like if the things you needed were there to support each path. Then choose the best feeling path. Observe over time how it works out. You should find that good feelings guide you to the correct path and that bad feelings warn you of the difficulties to come. You are tuning into a higher guidance in this case.

These are the sorts of thing you can pick up with your feelings. They tell you about the quality of your thoughts or the thoughts of others. Feeling good connects you with God and your own Higher Self. Feeling bad is an indication of separation from God or your own Higher Self. So you can experiment with these things in time and prove to yourself if what I am teaching is true or not. Don't just limit yourself to "I don't believe that."

In order to shift from struggling to get through life to loving life you must change your habits of thought. To do so you must hang out with different influences. You can do this in the form of books and movies. And certainly you should be careful of the people you choose to hang out with. Cut loose the relationships with those who do not feel good to be around.There is nothing wrong with this. Those people might tell you there is, but if you are really desperate then you should be willing to take desperate measures. You can always welcome those people back into your life at a later time when you are stronger and have excess energy to cope with them and their games. Perhaps they too will change for the better in that time and the reunion will be a joyful one.

Yes, I have given you a lot of blogs to read. And certainly over time more will come from me and others whose wisdom you respect. Take your time. Read a little each day. And below you will find more reading assignments for your health and wellbeing in the form of book recommendations. In the Golden Compass blog you will find recommendations for movies. Hang out in this different environment for awhile, I am talking years, and you will find that you do indeed change. Make it your intention to change, to grow, to heal, to come in touch with the real you, the you that is One with God and All That Is.

Book Recommendations…

Entertaining Biographical Stories I personally like stories about the lives of masters that also contain wisdom the best because of the entertainment value that goes with the wisdom.

Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story by Michael Skowronski. Yes this is my own book. It gives my own real life examples of how I grew from being a somewhat dysfunctional person into being a much more aware and compassionate person. There is much honesty in this story of how I thought and how those thoughts were creating my reality. It may leave you feeling naked and exposed, because I am sure you will find yourself relating to the thoughts I have thought and you will realize how such thoughts can damage your relationship with others. Of course there is much wisdom offered about thoughts and actions that will improve your life too. It is a true story and full of emotion and miracles. Yes actual physical healing miracles occurred in my life and in the life of my late wife Kathryn.

The Magus of Strovolos, Fire in the Heart, and Homage to the Sun all by Kyriacos C. Markedes this is an awesome trilogy about a Greek Mystic called Daskalos who performed many healing miracles and adeptly describes life in the other dimensions. Also if you can find the books written by Dr. Stylianos Atteshlis who is Daskalos in this series of books they are wonderful!

Autobiography of a Yogi by Paramahansa Yogananda. This is filled with stories of masters of India and the amazing miracles they performed. There are many stories of overcoming death, as in raising others from the dead. The first time I read this book I loved it but wondered if it were true. These days I have no doubt because over the years since I read that book I learned to live the wisdom it contains and have created many profound miracles in my life as a result. These are not the stories of a superstitious uninformed man. These are the stories of a man who has experienced a life we are all evolving toward.

Living with the Himalayan Masters, by Swami Rama
Walking With a Himalayan Master by Justin O'Brien
At the Eleventh Hour: The biography of Swami Rama by Pandit Rajmani Tigunait

Swami Rama died in 1996. He was a very powerful Yogi and like Yogananda also relates his first hand experiences with fantastic miracles over nature and life and death itself. Swami Rama was an intelligent, well educated and articulate man who himself conquered death and proved his amazing miraculous powers to modern scientists in many controlled laboratory experiments. He himself has written many books on the science of yoga that are also well worth reading, however they are too numerous to mention here. They can easily be found by searching the internet.

Books purely on the topic of spirituality, all these are channeled, I recommend...

Planetary Brother, I Come as a Brother, Reflections of an Elder Brother by BARTHOLOMEW as well as the other books by BARTHOLOMEW

Conversations with God I, II & III as well as At Home With God in a Life that Never Ends by Neale Donald Walsch

I have read and recommend Kryon books 1-3 & 6-11

Messages from Michael by Chelsea Quinn Yarbro

A Course in Miracles by Jesus Christ as channeled by Helen Schucman

By the time you run out of these I am sure there will be more recommendations from me posted. I also expect some of my friends will post some recommended reading material in the comments below.

You can heal yourself and you can have a life that is beautiful and meaningful. Don't let your current level of insanity and suffering stop you. Begin now, right where you are. Take it slowly. Take it one step at a time. But do the work each day and do not stop until you are clear in your heart and your mind that you are loveable, capable, and filled with wisdom.

Love and Blessings,
Michael Skowronski
Author of Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story